Talking About Kinks & Fetishes With Vanillas

As kinky people, we’re always having to explain our kinks and fetishes. We’re always having to figure out what to say, when to say it and if we should say it all. When it comes to telling new sex partners or your vanilla friends, it can be incredibly awkward but it doesn’t have to be.

Although it may seem like we live in a world of vanillas, we’re really living in a great big world full of repressed, undercover or un-awoken whores and sluts. Kinks and fetishes are like HPV and Herpes, you should just assume everyone has one or both. When they’re that common, those without kinks are the weird ones. Let thou who is without kink crack the first whip. *crickets*

Because of shame or some overwrought sense of self-importance, people tend to take their kinks very seriously. But, as a general rule, all kinks are ridiculous and arbitrary. Whether it’s feet, piss, leather, centaurs or tentacles, it’s all a little bit silly. If you look at it that way, it takes a lot of pressure off your kinky shoulders.

Remember, it’s just sex. Ying Yang Twins said it best, “They say a closed mouth don’t get fed, so I don’t mind askin’ for head.” We’re talking about fetishes and kinks, not end-stage cancer. When you tell people, you don’t have to woeful and ominous.

“Honey, I have to tell you a secret and I’m scared you won’t love me after. I want you peg me. I’m so ashamed.”

You can just open your mouth and say what turns you on.

“Sweetie, will you fuck in the ass with a strap-on tonight?”

See the difference?

If you come out and say what you want confidently and present it in a fun way, your repressed, undercover or un-awoken partner will probably react positively. If they don’t, then don’t fuck ‘em. Anyone who makes you feel bad because of your kinks, no matter how “unusual,” is a person who doesn’t care about you. People like that don’t get to your enjoy ill nana.

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