What do when they love giving oral but you hate receiving

Should I lay back and think on England while he goes down on me?

Should I lay back and think on England while he goes down on me?

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Out of curiosity, do you think it goes the other direction? Like, what if I don't like oral sex (for full-disclosure, I'm a woman)? I mean, don't get me wrong, I've had good oral. I just have no real interest in it. But my partner is very, very into giving oral. Should I just lie back and think of England until he's done?
-- Psychopomp

As long as you don't hate it, I would say that you should let your partner have their fun every once in a while. Since it's not your thing, you don't have to give it to them all the time but it could be a treat for fucking you well.

Try adding in sex toys (vibes, nipple clamps, butt plugs) to change the dynamic. If your partner likes to be a little sub or you like to be a little dom, you could try sitting on their face and playing with your clit/nipples/ass. If you like being submissive try using a blindfold along with massage/spanking to make your body ache for release; at that point, any stimulation will be your thing. Also, a little oral might be nice in a session where your vagina has been pounded hard and put away wet.

If none of that works and you're cool with being their Tootsie Pop then go for it. There's nothing wrong with laying back and thinking of England while they stick their head in the Thames. It shows that you're nice enough to give them what they need, which will end up with you getting what you need.

Keep it sexy.


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