Sex Number: Why The Number Of People You've Had Sex With Doesn't Matter

Jerome Stuart Nichols

Everyone has an idea of the number of partners they’ve had over their lifetime. If you say you don’t, you’re lying. If you really don’t remember that’s because you have to get blackout drunk to have no-strings sex and that is a topic for a different post. In our heads, the number is like a check to see where we stack up against everyone else. We wonder if we have had enough partners, if we’ve had too many or too few.

In any relationship, the question of how many people you've slept with will come up. Often we don’t want to share because we think people will think badly of us. We’ll lie to make the number seem more palatable. I’ll tell you my number. It’s 78. Do you know why I am so willing to share? Because it doesn’t fucking matter. Do you know what a 2010 poll found to be the average? Six. How do I feel about being General Slutacular over here? I don’t care. Why? Because it doesn’t fucking matter.

It's Never Just HIV - Video

Jerome Stuart Nichols
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This video is so fucking doom and gloom... but true. I REALLY wish they would dispel with all the "YOUR GOING TO DIE!!!!!!!" messages in these videos. Please know that the way these people are trying to get you to wrap it up is ridiculous. Even though I would have like more facts and less scare tactics what they are saying is true. Having HIV puts you at higher risk for all sorts of diseases. Also know that you don't die from AIDS. You die from some other disease that your compromised immune system can not fight off. Be aware, know your risks, choose to wrap it up. If you don't wrap it up, keep knowledgable about your status, inform your partners, and try to minimize the risks.

Keep it sexy.

Jerome

What's wrong with surviving domestic abuse and like BDSM?

Jerome Stuart Nichols

In 2008, if you had told me that soon Rihanna would be having a Tina Turner running bleeding across an eight-lane highway moment, I would have laughed you out the room. At that time, Rihanna and Chris Brown were pop’s power couple, think Britney Spears & Justin Timberlake circa 2001. There was no way mild mannered and wildly talented Chris Brown would ever raise a hand to strike anyone, unfortunately I would have been very wrong.

On February 8, 2009, Chris Brown did strike Rihanna, leaving her swollen and bloodied; bringing an unfortunate end to reign of Princess Ri Ri and Prince CB. After The incident, Chris got probation and community service, Rihanna got an interview on 20/20. Come 2010 the world had all but forgotten about the incident.

That was until Rihanna rocketed to the top of the pop charts in the summer of 2010 with “Love The Way You Lie,” a duet with notoriously controversial rapper Eminem. The video for the hit song, starring Megan Fox and Dominic Monaghan, portrayed an abusive relationship. Many critics claimed the song and video glorified domestic abuse and came down hard on both artists. As with all mild controversies, it blew over quickly. The story remained dormant until Feb 1, 2011 when Rihanna released the video for her hit song S&M.

The video, which I featured right here, is a peak into Rihanna’s enjoyment of BDSM. Yet again people are criticizing Rihanna for her choice to “glorify violence.” One article in particular caught my attention, aka pissed me off beyond all belief. Yahoo! Music columnist Billy Johnson Jr’s article, “Why Is Rihanna Singing About Violence?” asks some valid questions. He postulates, “Rihanna is both victim and perpetrator here. But is this message empowering? Does it advocate fighting back? Or is it just titillating in the same sense of Lady Gaga's homicide-themed ‘Paparazzi’ or Katy Perry's gratuitous ‘California Gurls’ videos?”

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