For those of you who have never asked a group of people what
their thoughts and feelings are on anal sex, I have one word for you: beware. I ventured this query recently and I
received a *cough* butt-load of responses. Where I went wrong, I think, is
questioning my most prudish friend first.
A brief involuntary chirp escaped her lips and, all of a sudden, her face consisted of only moist, wide eyes and a pained grimace. A moment later, once she regained a small amount of composure, she managed to point at a more liberal friend of ours and squeak, “ask her.”
As it turns out, the new interviewee was a bubbling fountain of facts and opinions on this subject. She dropped the terms “anal beads,” “butt plug,” “lube” and “pegging,” as if they were everyday terms. Perhaps they were? It was my turn for moist, wide eyes.
Other female friends avoided the topic, all together. On one occasion, a friend’s eyes darted to a spot beyond the horizon and said, “Oh, look! A distraction!” I, graciously, allowed myself to be distracted.
As for the men’s opinions, they were, surprisingly, assorted. Many were gung-ho about anal sex. In fact, I could just hear the silent high fives being exchanged between bros. This is, admittedly, the reaction I expected from every testosterone carrier.
In other deep voices, I heard curiosity, disgust and, even, boredom. One guy even called it “overrated,” which is a word that has swum around my head more than once, but t I never expected to come out of a guy’s mouth. He said it so matter of fact-like, leaving no argument, leaving no room to lubricate the conversation or an anus.
I’m going to be honest here. I’ve always been anti-anal. Exit only kind of girl. However, as I’ve grown older and wiser and developed the ability to laugh if things don’t happen to work out perfectly in the bedroom, I’ve become less uptight. My curiosity bone has started to tickle and I’m warming up to experimenting. The variety of responses I received, when I broached the subject of anal sex, has piqued my interest.
So, I suggest this, to all of you who are prudish and bland, like me: let your imagination take a walk. You don’t have to immediately take the pooper plunge but, just once, try not to blanche at the thought of being touched there by your lover’s finger or tongue. Just consider it, because, who knows, you might enjoy it. And if you enjoy it, you might enjoy other things…
Imagine your partner laying on their back, their body moving in rhythm with yours. Their head, held back, mouth open, letting out moans of ecstasy. That’s why I love pegging. It’s intimate for me and my partner. They’ve let go and put their trust in me to be the top they need. Letting go of any societal judgment and giving into pleasure.
I am a straight, dominant man who loves anal sex *pause for applause* Thank you, thank you. Now the reason I made the statement “I am a straight dominate man who loves anal sex” comes from gathering a number of the myths that I have read and heard about that I have found that people have about anal sex and men.
The main (maybe only) difference between anal sex and vaginal sex is the preparation for it. But the choral lyrics by a couple of 80’s & 90s songs entitled “It Takes Two” still says it best: “It takes 2 to make a thing go right / It takes 2 to make it out of sight.” With that said, what makes a good anal bottom?
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Ask any emergency room nurse, people love shoving random crap up their butts. From vegetables to live animals, the possibilities for insertion are only limited by the pliability of your anus. Just because the options are limitless doesn't mean you should go around sticking any random thing up there. So, today, I'm giving you a handy guide of five things you should never put in you rectum/anus, in no particular order.
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