Intimacy is one of those things that sounds flowery in theory, but in practice is often pretty shitty.
As I write this, I’m sitting on the toilet in my apartment that I share with my partner, Bubby. The door is open. In fact, he just left the bathroom after coming in to do some business of his own.
For a long time now, we’ve been well acquainted with every part of each other’s body. I figure if I can stick my penis in every part of him I can, I should be willing to accept his body as it is normally — when it’s incredibly sexy and when it’s at its most repulsive.
I wouldn’t say that shitting in front of one another is the most repulsive, but it’s definitely a social taboo usually worth a few disgusted looks. Even still, in my relationship it’s part of our comfort with one another. That comfort is something we definitely had to work at, but I’m glad we did.
To be fair, a late-night bathroom rush kind of pressed the issue of an open-door pooping policy, but the result was the same.
I actually really like being able to do my bathroom business without having to hide. Whenever I have to hide anything about myself, I end up feeling persecuted even if I’m not being judged. I didn’t realize until after we did it, but hiding my bathroom activities was causing me a lot of unnecessary stress.
I know it seems silly, but I get incredibly anxious over things like that, and it really affects my behaviors and mood. This particular issue wasn’t causing me to lose sleep, but dealing with the little worries about smells and sounds has been a big relief.
Don’t worry; I’m not saying all this to tell you that you must be on the edge of your seat watching your partner pinch one out. Instead, I suggest in general that you should try to gain as great of comfort with each other’s bodies as possible.
I mean, if you want to shit in front of each other, I’m for it, but it’s not going to kill your relationship to keep it private. In fact, if you’re of the judgmental ilk, it might be better to keep the mystery. Everyone else could reasonably try to let belches and farts go without exclamation and reach a similar goal.
However you get there, I think you’ll find the intimacy to be an incredibly comfortable fit.
Do you have an open door policy in your house? How do you handle that sort of shit - see what I did there?
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