Consent: manifesting desire - Let's Talk About Sex

People like to talk a lot about consent and what that means in terms of sexual assault. Yet people rarely discuss consent and what that means in terms of sexual attraction. Yeah, consent is permission but it’s also the manifestation of sexual desire and the heat of passion, which is why consent is so damn sexy.

The game of finding someone who wants to have sex with you is tough. If you’re not horny at the right time and in the right place, it may never happen. Most nights at the bar or cruising online will end in disappointment. Yet, it’s all worth it for that moment when you finally find someone and they want you with every ounce of their being.

When you look into someone’s eyes and all you can see is hunger, you know that their going wild with arousal. You know their blood is flowing fast, their skin is awake and on fire, waiting for your touch. You know that they want you so bad that their mouth waters imagining your lips and their thighs quiver as you get closer. That moment, that’s what consent is all about.

Consent is true sexual power because power is about more than control. Power is not just about what you can do, it’s about what you can convince people to do or want you to do. Anyone can force someone to have sex but it takes skill, charm and some arousing assets to make someone actually want to fuck you. When you’ve done that and you know that their body is yours to play like a Stradivarius that’s when you’re really in control.

When someone one gives you consent, then and only then can you have control over their mind and body, the whole of their being.  In this moment of desire, they’ve consented to let your fingers control them like a marionette. They’ve given themselves over to pleasure; they’ve given themselves over to you.

When a person chooses to lay down with or get rammed in a bathroom stall by you, they are vulnerable to your every whim. You knocked down their walls with a smile and now you get to knock their lights. I told you consent was sexy. 

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