I’m an overweight gay guy. Because of my weight I have a hard time find other guys who want to date me, let alone take me back to their dorm for some fun. I’m confident and handsome. But, being on a college campus, without a car, I’m limited to my selection of eligible guys. Any advice on how to find someone?
Man, do I know how you feel. I spent the first two years in colege completely dateless, aside from the random online match up. It was really tough to figure out exactly what bait to put in my trap to lure in someone who wanted what I had to offer. Through a lot of trial, error and creepers I seem to have finally gotten a handle on things.
The first piece of advice I have for you is to get online! Gay men are a very small population. Finding a guy who is not only gay but also looking for a big guy is often like looking for a piece of hay in a needle stack. Going online to a site like BiggerCity or Bear411 helps you hone in on the people who looking for someone like you.
When you're online, make sure to show a little skin in your pics. Men tend to be extremely visual when looking for people to fuck/date. If you show them a bit of what they're looking for, you're more likely to have people contact you to see more. You don't have to be butt-ass naked but it helps.
Even getting on ManHunt or Grindr opens the potential for a connection that you may miss by going to a bar or other social gathering. But I wouldn't reccomend those because people with specific preferences that are not the "norm" tend to be few and a type-specific site will automatically weed out the tweaked out gym bunnies looking for a twinkie.
The second piece of advice I have for you is to take every opportunity that comes your way. Sometimes dating online can be really awkward and people don’t always put their best foot forward. As long as you feel safe, what could it hurt to have a conversation at a coffee shop or on Skype? In real life they could be really kind people who just happen to be clueless at how to advertise themselves.
Some of the nicest people I’ve ever met have had the oddest online profiles with terrible pictures, bad grammar, etc. Although, if you want to run screaming because he used your instead of you’re, I completely understand. I'm kidding, give people a chance. Dumb dick can still be good dick.
The third tip I can give you is to just be patient. Just because you’re online with your best foot forward and on a type specific site does not mean that King Charming is going to ride up in his vintage Grand Am tomorrow. You have to spend time cultivating relationships and friendships that could become something more.
While you're waiting and searching, check out these online dating tips.
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