This man to the left is Louis CK. Louis CK is a sexy motherfucker. That hairy, pudgy, misshapen, balding, ginger, middle-aged, divorced, father of two happens to be one of the sexiest people living today.
Pudgy, misshapen, balding . . . none of that sounds attractive. However, in a game of “marry, fuck, kill” with Taylor Lautner, Kellan Lutz and Louis CK, Team Jacob is going to die. Now, I can’t pass up a chance at Emmett Cullen, but it’s Lucky Louie I’d want for the long run.
What does Louie have that those abtastic Twilight Saga stars don’t? A personality.
When it comes to attraction, physical appearance is always first. The way someone looks is what grabs your eye or pushes it away. Let’s face it, ugly people do not often get a second look; Depending on how ugly, we may want to forget the first. Being the animals that we are, someone who is physically attractive will always have the immediate edge. A nice rack, on women and men, will catch someone’s attention. However, if your conversation is lacking or you’re dumber than a bag of rocks, that attention will wane. You must have personality, charm, confidence, or lots of money in order to keep that attention coming.
Louie is smart, witty, brave, and funny as hell. As a standup comedian most of his career is spent on stage furnishing a personality and wit that he can project. Other people are not as lucky. Most of our socialization is spent with other personality deficient people. That is not conducive to building great conversation skills or a depth of character. The vast majority of us only learn to have and appreciate it once father time has begun to chip away at their youth.
For people our age, it’s expected that we may not see past physicality and that’s understandable. For many of us we are in the best shape of our lives; gravity hasn’t hit us, we have all our hair, and living in a cubicle hasn’t robbed us of our taught, youthful bodies. However, I implore you to try now to see what most will ignore for twenty more years.
Whether or not you have realized it yet, the way a person looks is secondary to how they make you feel. It’s a lesson that is learned, not taught, so it’s understandable if at this point you are still chasing the hottest piece off ass you can get. One day you will meet someone(s) who sparks your interest with their mind and you will melt. Someone who makes you laugh, smile, and cheer consistently will no doubt be a person that you want to keep with you.
Your brain is the biggest and baddest sex organ in your body; I would say it’s the best too. What other sex organ can you use to its full potential anytime, any place without risk of getting arrested? Stimulating your mind and stimulating your body are one in the same. Someone you find interesting who you don’t find attractive will grow to be attractive. You may find that your attraction to them will be much stronger than a fleeting connection to a nice ass in a tight pair jeans.
I want to take a moment to break up this School House Rock after school special to make a PSA (Practical Sense Announcement). I understand that there is a difference between unattractive and ugly. I also understand that one person’s unacceptable is another person’s perfection. There is a limit for everyone, at some point there is no level of charming that can make up for a certain level of ugly. Let’s just be realistic here. That being said, this is no excuse for you to be a vain asshole.
Consider this post just an idea kernel. I’m not expecting that you’re going to go out and bang the next uggo you see. However, I think that it is possible you could give that awkward guy a chance to hit on you, or you can ask the mousy quiet girl for coffee . . . or you could take the standard route and learn slowly. Just recognize that you may not want to rule anyone because they are not your type. All I ask is that you consider it.
That is all for now, but I want to know what you think. Are looks more important to you? Have you learned this lesson already? Leave a comment below.
Until next week,
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