If you have been following along at home, I’ve been giving this internet dating thing a solid try and it’s… well, it’s going. If you read the third edition in my dating series you know that I have been having a stressful time adjusting to dating life. Because that piece was supposed to be a bit mellower, I neglected to talk about a few things that have been bothering me about internet dating; paramount among my annoyances being this obsession with pictures.
Now I get it, you want to see with whom you’re corresponding. But, why does every conversation inevitably lead to them asking me for naked pictures? I am far from prudish but I find it almost insulting that I, seemingly, cannot have a rational adult conversation without fielding requests for porno shots.
I’m not opposed to swapping pictures, or going on a webcam, but if we have only shared 5 messages I’m not going to send you pictures of my naughty bits. That’s really not a smart idea.
Also, can we leave a little bit to the imagination, please? I understand face/body shots, I even get fetish shots like feet. But what I don’t get is the obsession with extremely graphic photos. Many times, I feel like these guys will not be satisfied until I’ve shoved the camera in my rectum.
I have always enjoyed that sense of anticipation when you’re watching someone strip off their clothes for the first time. It’s exciting to catch that first glimpse of a new person, but that is completely lost when you spend your time swapping pics instead of building a human connection.
Don’t get me wrong, asking for photos is completely fine. However, I’m just bothered by the lack of sophistication in correspondence. I’m not asking for a rhodes scholar, but could you at least lie and make me feel less like a slab of meat.